Cloud makes the terrific point that a lot of our pious talk about "I'm not going to date someone unless he/she has such-and-such quality" is flawed and self-defeating. I've talked to a number of single friends who cut themselves off from opportunities to simply grow socially (if nothing else) because they refuse to consider spending any time with someone who does not match their description of "My Perfect Spouse."Of course this brings us to the highly controversial chapter in Cloud's book on "Dating Non-Christians." My husband and I actually fall on different sides of the fence on how we feel about this chapter.
#1 -- You might be wrong about the type of person you think you will get along well with, or your preferences might actually change (think Green Eggs and Ham here), #2 -- You cannot judge a book by it's cover, and #3 -- You might actually be genuinely flawed in thinking you know "what's good for you" -- God knows these things much better than we do. Suffice it to say that Cloud pushes the conservative Christian envelope on this one.
I probably became a more patient, accepting person in the rest of my life as well.
All people should be treated well, and yet often we treat people according to a subjective rating that we give them.
Rather than sitting there in judgement deciding whether my date was good enough, right for me, or anything else, I could be present with them and just get to know them.
As a result, I met some wonderful people who felt accepted rather than judged, and as a result they trusted me.
Starting today---right now---you can begin a journey that will bring fun and interesting people into your life, broaden your experience of others and yourself, and lead you toward that date of all dates---a date worth keeping.
Mostly as a joke, I checked this book (along with the very secular Four Man Plan) out of the library in 2008.
I can't see myself with anyone else now, but I don't know if I would have given our relationship enough time to develop if I hadn't taken this patient approach, and this book helped in that.
This book is my favorite dating book, and I'm not even Xtian.
Henry Cloud shares his proven, very doable, step-by-step approach to overcoming your sticking points and getting all the dates you could want. Filled with true-life examples you'll identify with instantly, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping will prove its worth to you many times over in the exciting months ahead.
With over ten years of experience personally coaching singles on dating, Dr.
Starting today---right now---you can begin a journey that will bring fun and interesting people into your life, broaden your experience of others and yourself, and lead you toward that date of all dates---a date worth keeping. - You wonder what it is about you that fails to attract dates.
I appreciated her acknowledgement of the legitimacy of dating, but also her caution When I was single, I read a number of Christian books on dating from what I can remember: Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot Quest for Love also by Elisabeth Elliot I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris Lady in Waiting by Debbie Jones Boundaries in Dating by Henry Cloud & John Townsend ..one other book whose title I can't remember...